Many of my clients come to me after discovering that their husbands have been disseminating their nude images and videos to strangers or known third parties for years.
These women are understandably shocked. They also often think they are alone.
But unfortunately, this violation is becoming more and more common.
Digital domestic abuse, like physical domestic abuse, is a crime. And there are specific actions survivors can take to seek justice.
What is digital domestic abuse?
Digital domestic abuse happens when your partner shares nude images or videos of you with others without your consent or knowledge.
It is the digital version of the horrific abuse that Gisèle Pelicot survived, mass rapes organized by her husband while she was drugged.
Many women feel that because the violation wasn’t physical, it somehow isn’t as serious.
But digital domestic abuse is a crime. Survivors have rights, as well as several different options for seeking justice.
If you’ve been the victim of digital domestic abuse, I believe you. You’re not alone. And we can take action.
What to do if you’re the victim of digital domestic abuse
No one, not even your husband, has the right to share nude or explicit images or videos of you with others.
In my work as a legal specialist in cyber sexual misconduct, I represent women who find themselves uncertain of what to do after discovering that they have been a victim of this type of abuse.
I help my clients choose the right path forward, including pursuing next steps that include:
- Obtaining a restraining order
- Filing a lawsuit
- Going to the police to report the crime
If the abuse is perpetrated by a spouse or partner you share children with, the situation is undeniably nuanced and complex. But you still have options.
You are entitled to protection and justice.
If you or someone you know has been the victim of digital domestic abuse in New York, New Jersey, Rhode Island, or DC, please reach out to see how I can support you.
Increasing awareness of digital abuse
Men need to do better.
Sharing an explicit image or video of your partner isn’t “boys being boys” or harmless locker room behavior. It’s a crime.
We can all spread awareness by speaking openly and clearly about the severity of this type of abuse.
If you see something, report it. Take it as seriously as you would if it were physical abuse. It’s time to speak up, demand more of the men in our lives, and support survivors.
Every voice counts.
And if you would like to do your part by educating or training your organization or group about the realities of cyber harassment and digital abuse, contact Lindsay Lieberman Law and Consulting for speaking and training opportunities.
